How do you manage traumatic events that have happened or are happening in your life? How do you remove emotions from your brain related to certain challenging situations, either from your past or your present? How do you change your connection to these emotional setbacks, forever?


Let’s go back to the beginning of humankind and how we have learned to exist through certain survival methods. Depending on the life situation, it can either take your body into a state of “danger” or a state of “safe.” Let’s go even deeper. The autonomic nervous system is controlled by the vagus nerve, which begins in the brain and goes all the way down and throughout the endocrine system, bonding all of your organs together. Your autonomic nervous system functions aren’t consciously controlled, such as heart rate, breathing, and digestion. It is divided into two halves: the parasympathetic, or “safe” and calm resting state, and sympathetic, the “fight or flight” danger mode.

When you find yourself in a stressful situation, the vagus nerve sends electrical currents down your spine, stimulating a response of fight or flight, where you resist forcibly or run away. In today’s world, you would be stunned at how much time you and even your children spend in the fight-or-flight mode. But it’s possible to manage your central nervous system so that you can disconnect your emotional attachments to certain stressful or traumatic situations. You can control your emotional-brain-body connection.


Here’s how…


Havening is a psycho-sensory therapy technique (a mind-body connection) that’s easy to use every day of the week. In just a few minutes, it can change your brainwave state so that you can disconnect the emotions that are stuck in your brain related to certain traumatic and stressful events.

Here’s how it works. First, identify the stressful event. Then, identify your emotions attached to that event (you can even write this down). Then, create an affirmation that will help disconnect your emotions from the challenging situation, such as, “I am calm, I am at peace, I am safe,” “I am open to being compassionate,” “I am hopeful,” “I open my heart to friendship,” or “I open my mind to learning.” Then find a quiet, out-of-the-way space, sitting or standing, and close your eyes. Next, bend your arms at the elbows and cross them in front of you. Resting the palm of each hand on the opposing shoulder, gently stroke your arm, starting at your shoulder down to your elbow. When you have reached your elbow, raise your hands back to your shoulders and repeat this stroking motion, all the while repeating to yourself or out loud your affirmation or mantra. Do this for five to seven minutes.


Once you have completed your session of this relaxation therapy method, open your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and then make your evaluation. Ask yourself, “Do I still have emotions attached to this stressful event? Have I moved away from the unlikely event toward the life outcome that I want?” To no surprise, you will discover that not only have you immediately had a positive change in your physiological (body) state but that you no longer have certain negative emotions attached to the situation—they will have all but gone away.

This sensory relaxation technique relieves a tremendous amount of life stressors, such as learning disabilities, depression associated with traumatic events, autism, insomnia, high blood pressure, and auditory hypersensitivity.

Always remember your values, strengths, and skills. In doing this technique, you will remember the kind of person that you want to be and how you choose to respond to current challenges or stressful traumatic memories.


In these times, Kate offers virtual sound-healing sessions on Instagram at House of Profound, and as a Reiki Master, she is also able to offer distance healing. Additionally, she holds certificates as an Integrative Nutrition Coach and in kundalini and astrology. Visit her website and follow her on Instagram for more information.


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The sleeveless knit sweater is set to be one of fall’s biggest trends, and it’s already fashion-approved by the It girls of Instagram. They’re perfect to layer over a loose button-down top or can be worn on their own while the weather is still warm. If you’re ready to be an early adopter and want your own sweater vest, shop the fashion trend below.



The Natural Hair Products That Will Turn Your Curl Game Up A Notch

As Black women, we take our crowns seriously, no matter the style of the crown. Our natural hair is a means of showcasing the beauty of our roots. Whether you’re a 3A, 2B or 4C, your curls matter.

Being a naturalista is no easy feat. You have to be up to the minute on all of the latest natural hair products to ensure you’re giving your curls the love they deserve. Our curls comes in all different shapes, sizes and textures so we have to meet them where they are but not leave them there. With humidity coming for all the hard work we put into maintaining the perfect curl and avoiding frizz, we gotta stay ready so we don’t have to get ready.

Keep reading for some natural hair products that will have your curls screaming, “Yasssss!”

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Aveeno Oat Milk Blend Shampoo

Did you know that oat milk is great for soothing your scalp? Because it is rich in protein and lipids, it adds a smoothness and shine that your curls will thank you for. Depending on your scent preference, you may love or hate the fragrance but we guarantee you’ll love how your hair feels after a good shampoo. $7 Buy Now

Oyin Handmade Hair Natural Moisture Dew

Celebrated as the leave-in to believe in, this Oyin product will kick dryness in the ass. The castor oil and squalane provide hydration and moisture for your coils and kinks. $20 Buy Now

SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Treatment Masque

SheaMoisture is an illustrious collection of products perfect for repairing damaged hair. If you’ve been using heat and/or coloring your hair more than you should, this Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strengthen & Restore Treatment Masque will reduce shedding and allow your hair to grow free of harsh chemicals. $12 Buy Now

DevaCurl Deep Sea Repair Seaweed Strengthening Mask

DevaCurl created a treatment ideal for defining your curls while also improving elasticity. Try using this product once a week to power-pack your curls with the strength it needs for any style. Word on the street is that this DevaCurl option is a great option for transitioning curls. $51.20 Buy Now

KareCo Tangle Buster Brush

Your coils need a brush that is gentle and efficient. The Tangle Buster has your back from its flexible paddle to the easy glide bristles. Whether using it on wet or dry hair, you can flawlessly detangle your hair in one hour, giving you more time to style your hair. $10.96 Buy Now


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With a name like Fluff-a-licious, how can you go wrong? A little goes a long way as you style your bantu knots or twist out. You can depend on this product to keep your hair supple for days on end. Not to mention, the wheat germ oil and blue malva herb gives thick curly strands maximum nourishment. $16 Buy Now

Afro Sheen Crown Defining Curl Cream

Sometimes our curls need a little help – think of this curl defining cream as the curl support system. It lacks grease, is full of fatty acids and reduces split ends. When lathering the cream, you are sure to notice an instant softness. $21 Buy Now

R+Co Cassette Curl Shampoo 

Everyone hates frizz so, when we find a product that tames frizz, we are sold. Between the flaxseed and rice oil, you’ll want to treat this product like your favorite album that you can play and walk away. It will strengthen your hair from the follicle to the ends. $29 Buy Now



Lizzo Just Went Totally Vegan, Here’s What She Eats In A Day

It took me years to learn that I don’t need to be thinner to be happy and that healthy can also look thicc AF. Wellness isn’t a destination, issa journey and after making a major lifestyle change to level up her diet and elevate her fitness, Lizzo knows this well.

In a series of posts on TikTok, the 32-year-old 3X Grammy-award singer revealed her recent transition to veganism and said that although it hasn’t been easy, her physical well-being is totally worth it. She captioned one video:

“As a new vegan, I’m enjoying exploring flavors from plants & plant-based proteins! Every journey is personal & deserves to be celebrated.”

In her latest collection of Tik Tok videos, which has more than 9 million followers, Lizzo has been diligently spilling the tea on all of the plant-based products that keep her feeling good as hell and we are taking notes. With small lifestyle changes like switching out her hot cheetos for hummus and veggie puffs, Lizzo says that her increased amount of time at home has allowed her to put her culinary skills to the test to curb her cravings.

Along with vegan bacon with maple syrup, mushroom meatballs, and plant-based scrambled eggs, here are a few more of Lizzo’s go-to recipes:




  • Coconut water
  • Kale or spinach
  • Frozen fruit



  • Kale
  • Red cabbage
  • Broccoli
  • Avocado
  • White onions
  • Carrots


“I used to eat a lot of hot Cheetos, but that wasn’t good for my acid-reflux. These are Cheeto-alternative I love that’s vegan and I dip them in hummus. Badda-boom badda-snack!”


  • Hummus
  • Lesser Evil Paleo Puffs



  • Mushroom balls mixed with truffles and chickpeas
  • Quinoa
  • Leftover lunch salad



  • peanut butter
  • frozen strawberries
  • oats, oat milk
  • vanilla protein powder
  • and “love from Jesus.”

Lizzo concluded the TikTok explaining that she feels “very lit and full” while reminding her followers that “we still need justice for Breonna Taylor.”

In a separate TikTok, the body-positive singer said being vegan has been “pretty easy” except when she is hungover – as she craves cheesy eggs.


Might do a what I eat in a day vid because I feel like us fat queens need to represent 🤤

♬ original sound – lizzo

Fortunately, Lizzo has found a plant-based recipe for a vegan scramble that satisfies the craving, made with Just Egg alternative, vegan cheese, spinach, and a carne asada, bean, and corn mixture.

The “Hustlers” actress paired the breakfast hangover meal with vegan bacon, which she recommends cooking in maple syrup “so it gets nice and crunchy and candied.”

Lizzo’s new vegan lifestyle has been met with support from her followers, who have applauded her for promoting veganism.

“This is awesome! I wanna eat every one of these things! Good on you for being a new vegan!” one person wrote, while another said: “Didn’t know you are vegan! I love you even more now, influential queen!”


This is not the first time Lizzo has given fans an insight into her healthy lifestyle choices.

Earlier this month, she shared a TikTok compilation showing her doing various exercises, while explaining that she doesn’t work out to “have your ideal body type.”

“I’m working out to have my ideal body type. And you know what type that is? None of your f—ing business,” she said.


I for one appreciate Lizzo talents, honesty, and many people are happy that she decided to share her recipes with us. There aren’t many vegan restaurants around me. I am halfway vegan so seeing someone who has similar food taste as me, makes me very excited to start chefting it up vegan style.