Are you autosexual? The short answer is yes, most likely. We all are, at least a little. Casey Tanner, therapist, writer, and founder of QueerSexTherapy, helped us define autosexuality as “a trait wherein one is turned on by engaging in their eroticism.” In other simpler term, it means that you have an emotional and sexual attraction to yourself. So, to be autosexual, you have a sexual desire for yourself, being erotically aroused by your own physical being. A prime example of this is simply women in general. While it may not be accurate for everyone, we generally feel more sexual and turned on when we feel we are sexy. But it’s not just about the ladies.


“ While masturbation is the most obvious example, autosexuality (or autoromantic ) may extend beyond sexual behavior to include feeling a longing or desire for oneself. It can also be the ability to turn oneself on through looking at, visualizing, touching, or smelling oneself.

Simply put, being autosexual is feeling a sexual attraction toward yourself, like sex and relationship expert Carmel Jones explains. The term is often also brought up with “autoromantic,” which refers to a romantic attraction to yourself, whereas “autosexual” is just the sexual component.


Tanner tells us that “like most human characteristics, autosexuality is a spectrum—and the majority of us are on it! Some may identify as exclusively autosexual, in which case they might consider autosexuality their sexual orientation. Most people, however, incorporate autosexuality into a larger sexual repertoire that also includes being turned on by partnered sex.”


If you have someone in your life who identifies as autosexual, don’t dismiss them or think of autosexuality under the umbrella of narcissism or selfishness, Jones says. Instead, acknowledge the validity of their sexual identity.

For partners, remember that their autosexuality is not an insult or attack against you. It doesn’t mean they are not sexually attracted to you or don’t want to have sex with you, Jones says, but instead that you may need to keep an open mind and understand that your sexual relationship with an autosexual partner may look a little different from what you’re used to and your ways of pleasuring each other may also be a little different.


This might mean wearing sexy lingerie, even if your partner hardly gives it a second glance. It could mean doing your hair and makeup so that you feel good and turned on, even when you’ve been in a long-term monogamous relationship and the other party hardly notices. It could mean washing lovingly in the bath and genuinely enjoying your body. It could mean dancing in the mirror in a cute outfit. If feeling sexy independent of someone else has ever turned you on, that’s autosexuality, and it’s normal.

Like all things, it’s on a spectrum, as White explains. You can be in a romantic relationship with someone else but still find it easier to be turned on with yourself, she adds. You might also have sexual feelings triggered by thoughts, images, or sexual fantasies involving yourself. Or you might feel naturally turned on by looking at yourself in the mirror or fantasizing about yourself naked.

If you enjoy watching yourself have sex or are attracted to people who look like you, those could also be signs you’re autosexual, according to Jones.


Autosexuality is often associated with narcissism, but experts agree that’s not an accurate way of thinking about autosexuality. “This is not the same as narcissistic personality disorder, as narcissists require admiration and attention from others and lack empathy,” White explains. Instead, “ people who identify as autosexual are able to have relationships with others but have a preference for sex with themselves.”

” Many folks resist autosexuality, fearing that it’s narcissistic or might detract from partnered sex. In reality, autosexuality can be a healthy, even valuable part of your sex life, explains Megwyn White, director of education for Satisfyer. Embrace loving yourself! Embrace turning yourself on!


When we know how to turn ourselves on, we depend less on environmental cues to move us into a sensual headspace. When we look at or fantasize about ourselves, we are in touch with our bodies and senses. Getting turned on by oneself does not mean you think you’re better than other people, that you’re selfish, or that you’re not attracted to your partner(s). Rather, it’s one additional tool in your box for sparking desire and passion.

It takes us into a comfortable, relaxed space when we find our sexuality to be attractive. We are sensual beings, so depending on our sensuality instead of relying solely on others to turn us on has profound power. It takes the pressure off of partnered sex, and it brings so much pleasure to our time, ehem, alone. Wherever you land on the spectrum of autosexuality, none of it is wrong. Enjoy yourself, literally.

Need more info, Health got ya! Click here to get more details on autosexuality. Web MD is another great source to visit.


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How to Find the Right Face Mask for YOUR SKIN

It’s easy to think that all face masks are good for us. They’re a treatment, right? How can special treatment be bad? But depending on the weather, or our skin type, or even just our skin’s current #mood, the wrong mask could do us dirty.

If we have super dry skin, steer clear of harsh pulling clays or even exfoliating acids, which can be hard because we want to dissolve those dead skin flakes. However, we need to nurture our skin barrier and be kind and cognizant of our skin’s current condition before slapping on a face mask and considering it a favor.


On the other hand, if we have oily skin, we don’t want to get eight hours of REM under an emollient sleeping mask or overdo it with hydrating facials. It’s all about balance and assessing what our skin’s needs are.

Ahead we’re sharing our favorite powder face masks to add to your skincare routine.




Ritual Set, $15

For easy application, use this bowl and brush set to blend the formula and water. Lee also likes to add a drop of this honey mask and a few shakes of this rosemary reset powder to her mixture.

For Dry Skin

Forma Rosea, $45

If you’re feeling itchy, flaky, sallow, or dull, you’ll want to go straight for a hydrating mask and skip the harsh stuff. Colloidal oat kernel, chamomile flowers, carrot seed oil, coconut milk, jojoba, rose, and a few other key players nourish deeply while providing moisture. It’s the ultimate pink drink for our skin.

For Blemish-Prone Skin

Forma Viridi, $45

When we are stressed, PMSing, or maybe letting our diets get a little out of hand (hello holidays), we need to balance and clarify. This is when we should be reaching for a clay mask, and this one with mineral-rich French green clay does the trick without over-drying. Neem, lavender, and spirulina are anti-microbial, anti-inflammatory, and mineralizing for a soothing plan of attack for current and brewing breakouts.


For Irritated Skin

Forma Floris, $45

Sometimes our skin is not quite dry, not quite oily, but it’s clearly upset. This can happen in harsh climates, or when we’ve overdone it with skincare (over-exfoliation … please don’t, but OK, it happens). Soothe and calm freaked-out skin with hibiscus, marshmallow root, aloe, calendula, and chamomile to reduce redness, irritation, and inflammation. 

For Dull Skin

Reborn Mask, $60

Rhassoul, rosehip, turmeric, gotu kola, sea buckthorn, and a few other superstars will restore a glow and some color to your cheeks while gently pulling out impurities. These ingredients soothe while fighting future breakouts and inflammation, and at the same time boost circulation for rapid healing and instant radiance.

Papaya Bright Superfood Face Mask, $34

This brightening mask is made with 100% pure, edible superfoods. Plus, it’s highly recommended by our BeautyLeeBar Community. “It’s a powder formulated with clean, good-for-you ingredients; add a few drops of water and it turns into a gel-like paste. I use this bowl and brush to apply—self-care at its finest. Leave on for 10-15 minutes and rinse off to reveal healthy, glowing skin. Like using the Paris filter but IRL!”


For All Skin

Clean Greens, $34

When you’re not quite suffering active breakouts, but feel bogged down by blackheads and an overall lack of luster, time to give your skin the ultimate smoothie. Chlorella, spirulina, and mango juice help to nourish the skin and dissolve impurities. This mask is so nutrient-dense and yet so gentle, that we go back on our word with this one exception. Use this baby any time for a healthy glow.

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Kiehl’s Has a Holiday Gift Set for Everyone on Your List

Kiehl’s knows how to make skincare gifting easy — especially around the holidays. Not only has the brand created entire sets focused around different skincare needs and concerns, but it also packages them in adorable boxes and wrappings. Whether you’re shopping for a skincare novice, looking for grooming products the men in your life will use, or searching for a little something for yourself, find the perfect present below. 


Power-Packed Essentials

This anti-aging set (which is perfect for mom!) contains three customer-favorite products — the Powerful-Strength Line-Reducing Concentrate, Powerful-Strength Line-Reducing, and Dark Circle Diminishing Vitamin C Eye Serum and Super Multi-Corrective Anti-Aging Face and Neck Cream — to smooth, brighten and firm the skin. 

Brighten Up & Glow

If glowing skin is on your giftee’s wishlist this year (and who doesn’t want that?), the Brighten Up & Glow set is a perfect choice. It’s stacked with all of the products you need to build a healthy-skin routine from scratch with products like Clearly Corrective Dark Spot Solution and Ultra Facial Cream that brighten and moisturize. 

Midnight Recovery Duo

Give the gift of an upgraded nighttime routine with this Midnight Recovery Concentrate Duo, which has two full-size bottles of the classic overnight serum. We love this for a his-and-hers gift — or to stock up on extras if this oil is in constant rotation in your routine.

Ultra Hydrators

Winter is a recipe for dry, dehydrated skin, but this four-piece gift set is here to help. No matter who you’re shopping for, everyone could use more hydrating skin essentials like Creme de Corps and Ultra Facial Cream in their cold-weather skincare arsenal.

Men’s Groom-on-the-Go Set

Looking for a gift set he’ll use? You can’t go wrong with the face and body products included in this men’s grooming set. Inside, find four products: the Facial Fuel Energizing Face Wash for cleansing, Ultimate Brushless Shave Cream White Eagle for shaving, Facial Fuel Energizing Moisture Treatment for moisturizing, and Ultimate Man Body Scrub for exfoliating. 

Healthy Hands Trio

Pair frequent hand sanitizing and washing with cold temps outside and it’s a recipe for dry hands and rough cuticles. That’s why we’re positive this three-piece hand cream set will be put to good use. The mini moisturizers are perfect to throw in every jacket pocket or handbag. 

Men’s Fueled Up Favorites 

Does your partner constantly steal your skincare? It’s probably time to stock his shelf with skincare of his own — and this collection has everything he needs to get started. It contains the Facial Fuel Energizing Scrub, Facial Fuel Body Wash, Midnight Recovery Facial Oil, and Ultra Facial Cream. 

Merry Masking 

Self-care Sunday is getting a major upgrade with this adorable, nature-inspired masking gift set. Whether the goal is to minimize the appearance of pores with the Rare Earth Deep Pore Cleansing Mask, lock in hydration with Avocado Nourishing Hydration Mask, or amp up radiance with Tumeric and Cranberry Seed Energizing Radiance Mask, this trio has your giftee (or you!) covered. 

Kiss Me With Kiehl’s 

With mistletoe season officially here, this lip balm set is perfect for the holiday season. The gift contains the original Lip Balm #1 as well as the cherry and mint too. They’ll keep lips hydrated through the cold weather and underneath a face mask. 

Kiehl’s E-Gift Card 

The holidays look a little different this year due to the COVID-19 pandemic, so if you’re not going to be able to see loved ones IRL, send them a gift card straight to their inbox. It’s an easy, last-minute gift idea that’s bound to put a smile on their face. 


Kiehl’s 6 Best-Selling Face Masks (and Which One Is Best for You)

Devoted Kiehl’s shoppers are well-versed in the brand’s best-selling products. The Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Moisturizer or Creamy Avocado Eye Treatment? They’re practically iconic. With winter here, we’re currently focused on the brand’s selection of face masks. With so many tempting options, we’re breaking down six top-rated formulas to help you find the perfect Kiehl’s mask match for you.


Rare Earth Deep Pore Cleansing Mask

This purifying mask with Amazonian white clay helps draw out impurities, dirt and oil from your pores to smooth, clear and refine skin. After use, pores appear minimized and excess oil is reduced. Despite its detoxifying abilities, we like that it doesn’t dry out skin.

Calendula Petal-Infused Calming Mask

If you’re experiencing redness or sensitized skin or just need a refreshing boost, reach for this soothing mask. In addition to calming ingredients like calendula and aloe vera, it has a lightweight, cooling formula that feels like heaven on skin. 

Ginger Leaf & Hibiscus Firming Overnight Mask

Overnight masks are great for delivering an extra dose of nourishment to your complexion while you sleep. This one has a rich and velvety texture that helps smooth skin and plump fine lines and wrinkles thanks to firming ingredients like hibiscus flower and ginger leaf.

Turmeric & Cranberry Seed Energizing Face Mask

To energize and brighten dull skin, this mask should be your go-to. It gently exfoliates with crushed cranberry seeds, while turmeric helps brighten. Let it sit on skin for ten minutes and then rinse for an instant glow and smoother texture. 

Avocado Nourishing Hydration Mask

If hydration is your number-one skin goal, try the Avocado Nourishing Hydration Mask. The rich and creamy mask is formulated with avocado fruit extract, avocado oil and primrose to nourish skin and seal in moisture. 

Ultra Facial Overnight Hydrating Mask

If you’re obsessed with the brand’s cult-favorite Ultra Facial Moisturizer, adding this overnight mask from the same line to your routine is a no-brainer. It helps replenish and retain moisture, so you’ll wake up with a softer and more supple complexion.