One of our favorite quotes is, “Stay close to the people who feel like sunlight.” We don’t remember when we first read it, but over the past few years, it has taken on significant importance in our life. Like some of us who are incredibly introverted, we’ve always valued quality over quantity. We tend to swiftly and infinitely remove people who no longer bring “sunlight.” It happens as you grow older as things in your life start growing for the better. Resources become limited and we physically don’t have the capacity for anything less than sunlight. One of the things We’ve found most valuable from this mindset shift, is we become better people along the way.
Also, we don’t know about you, but this past year has had a profound effect on our friendships. We feel like we’ve heard a lot of people say the same thing. Being unable to socialize freely and required to put more effort into our connections tested a lot of relationships. Some faded into the background while others burned brighter.
It’s truly remarkable how we can adapt and grow when we’re soaking up sunshine rather than spending too much time in the shade.
Have you found your sunlight people? They are far and few between, but we promise they’re out there.
How to know if you’ve found your sunlight people:
They nurture and respect your vulnerability.
Your deepest and most treasured core values are aligned.
They are supportive of you in your good times.
They are supportive of you in your bad times.
Your time with them feels intentional and leaves your cup full.
They are consistent and steadfast, yet adaptable to life’s ebbs and flows.
You don’t worry about the state of your house when they drop by for a visit. They love you and will never judge the tornado your mindset has created.
You want to share your biggest triumphs and your lowest lows with them. And most importantly, you feel safe sharing these with them.
They always respect your time and your personal growth. Healthy boundaries are important on both sides.
They have gratitude. They truly appreciate everything they have in life, which makes them happier and more satisfied.
They choose every opportunity to experience joy.
You’ll know your sunshine people when you find them. The warmth is undeniable. Fill your cup with their light, and you’ll fill theirs right back.
Affirmations are simply statements that are designed to create self-change in the life of the individual who uses them. They can act as inspiration, as well as everyday reminders. They also serve to focus attention on goals throughout our day.
Our brain is constantly adapting and rewiring itself. Our thoughts, habits, and behaviors influence this process. If they are repeated consistently and often enough, a strong connection called a neural pathway is created.
We can think of our brain as an extraordinarily bustling city with lots of roads and pathways that are connected and light up every time we think, feel, or do something. Some of these roads are well-traveled. These are our habits, our established ways of thinking, doing, and feeling. Every time we make a choice, practice a particular task, or feel a specific emotion, we strengthen this road, and it becomes easier for our brain to travel this pathway.
Here are some ways you can start changing your brain and creating healthier self-talk habits:
Practice affirming yourself every day. ACTION IS KEY.
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Make time for what’s important. Minimize distractions, mute your devices, and spend 30 minutes focused on that important task, or engaging in meaningful interruption-free conversation. These mindful 30 minutes may just change your life.
Some examples of affirmations to get you started:
1. I can cope with anything life throws at me. I am strong and resilient.
2. Learning new habits is possible and will change my life for the better.
3. I can cope with hardships and challenges in healthy ways that support my greater good.
4. Happiness is a choice. I base my happiness on my accomplishments and the blessings I’ve been given.
When we feel good about ourselves and have a positive attitude, our lives tend to run more smoothly. Thinking positively can raise our vibrations.
I believe in affirmations so much that I am writing a book (to be published next spring) on their power and how they changed my life, as well as most of my clients’ lives.
When we start taking care of our body and mind through positive thinking, things such as renewed health, love, financial abundance, and recovery of all kinds will come our way. We simply have to trust the process.
The average person will have almost 60,000 thoughts in one day. Most of these thoughts are fleeting or uncontrolled. However, whether we recognize this or not, some of these thoughts affect our mental health, the way we live, and the decisions we make on a daily basis. Taking control of our thought life will result in a healthier life and ultimately a better version of us.
Here are some helpful hacks and things I say when I am trying to take control of my thoughts. We are all subject to bad days. But there are ways we can guard our worlds with our words.
1. I AM DOING BETTER THAN I THINK I AM.
We all have a tendency to be hard on ourselves, which can cause us to really think we are doing worse than we are in reality. My focus is not on my failures—I choose to pay attention to my wins.
2. THERE ARE MORE PEOPLE FOR ME THAN AGAINST ME.
It’s so easy to get caught up with those who are against us and forget those who are in our corner! Let’s remember that there are way more people for us than against us who truly want the best for us.
3. MY FUTURE IS BRIGHT, AND MY BEST DAYS ARE STILL AHEAD OF ME.
This is an important one. Pay attention—your glory days are not behind you. Believing in a beautiful tomorrow will always open windows of opportunity.
4. I AM STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE WHAT’S IN FRONT OF ME.
Say this: I am powerful! I will choose faith over fear, and move forward knowing that I am strong enough to face what’s in front of me.
5. THERE IS PURPOSE IN MY PAIN.
Circumstances are catalysts toward our growth. We must always remind ourselves that there is a purpose in our pain and experiences.
6. I WILL FOCUS ON BEING PRESENT OVER PERFECT.
Let’s be honest: none of us are perfect. See the magic in every moment.
7. “I AM” WILL BE LOUDER THAN “I’M NOT.”
Our doubts, fears, and insecurities often dominate our thought life. Let the dominant voice inside you be the I CAN and the I AM.
8. THE GATEWAY TO JOY IS THROUGH MY GRATITUDE.
We are all pursuing happiness. Try being thankful—it might make you smile more.
9. I HAVE EVERYTHING I NEED.
Sometimes it’s easy to dwell on what we don’t have. But I want to encourage you: everything you need is already in your hand, and you are enough for the task.
Speak life over yourself with these positive affirmations.
We are currently eight months in 2020 and as we prepare to enter this new season, I know you are present with your pen and paper writing out your list on what you’ve accomplished so far and what you still need to check off. Most of us were full steam ahead with our resolutions until Miss Rona knocked on our doors with a “hey, sis.” As such, we are still adjusting to what the “new normal” looks like for us.
Some of us have used this downtime to revamp while others like me are biting nails as we watch the growing numbers of positive cases on CNN, and look around whenever we hear someone cough—dealing with anxiety and fear of the unknown. Intermingled with that worry, many of us are having concerns with balancing the home and work life as our regular routines shattered with challenges with creating new habits. At any rate, our lives were shaken up, to say the least, and 2020 feels like the year that delivers blow after blow after blow. When met with anxiety and overwhelm, loss, uncertainty, worry, and financial stress, it can be easy to feel like giving up.
To help combat those inevitable low moments, something that could prove to be beneficial is speaking life over yourself through affirmations. Below are 14 positive affirmations to use when you feel like giving up.
I will be present in every moment.
Focus on the task at hand. Sometimes we get excited about completing a goal that we don’t enjoy the journey. When you feel overwhelmed or have negative self-talk, being present in the moment can shift your focus on what’s in front of you.
I have the power to change my story.
That’s the beauty of your life. It is yours, and you have the power to do whatever you want with it. That is the ultimate power and freedom. You can change your story within seconds. Realize that power and use it for good.
Everything I’m looking for I can find within me.
Have you ever asked your friend for advice but you already know what to do? Were you looking for confirmation? Ignoring outside opinions in lieu of trusting your gut and instincts, you will increase your self-confidence in knowing what you need to do and what it takes to get it done.
I love myself enough to push through.
Sometimes the most difficult tasks and decisions will test you and require you to dig a little deeper, stay up a little longer, or even get in one more squat for your summer body. It all boils down to the love and commitment you’re willing to give to yourself.
Great things never come from my comfort zone.
It’s time to say no to things that don’t serve you and start saying yes to something that can elevate you. Nothing is wrong with being playing it safe. However, to grow, you must push past being passive in reaching your goals and start being active. Coming out of our comfort zones reveals a side of us that we didn’t know existed. Let’s be honest, “old ways won’t open new doors.”
Something amazing is about to happen to me.
You probably can’t see it, touch it, taste it, or feel it, but you are so close. To reach any goal, you have to fake it until you make it. Saying it fifty times a day will give you all the confidence to embrace all the good that will happen in our life.
I thoroughly let go and trust in divine timing.
Things happen when they’re supposed to happen, and not when you’re ready for them to arrive. While attending to your goals, you are building your character along the way. Letting go and trusting the process will alleviate any anxiety and stress you may be feeling during this time. The point is that you have to keep going. When the time does arrive, you can and will appreciate it more.
I accomplish anything I focus on.
It’s easy to get distracted during these current times. If we focus long and hard enough, we can get things done, whether it takes hours, days, or years. Setting time aside, meditating, and praying will impact your focus and motivation to complete your goals.
I choose prosperity over failure.
Don’t allow Miss Rona to step on your toes and get in your way. You’ve come too far. Put those Pinterest boards to good use and hit the ground running. You can’t fail, and you aren’t giving yourself room to fail. You’ve come too far to give up now.
I release all negativity.
Are your thoughts motivating you or intimidating you to throw in the towel? What is popping up on your timeline? Sometimes to complete the tasks we deem necessary, we have to let go of something until the mission is complete temporarily.
I am always headed in the right direction.
When diving into something new, you will often second-guess yourself or jump in the pool of self-sabotage. But, everything you’ve worked for so far is leading you in the direction of your goals. The journey wasn’t perfect; it may not have looked like your peers’ journeys, but you are on the path to success as long as you know that you were forever in the right direction.
I honor my commitments and promises.
You’ve spent weeks and months conjuring up the plan to put things in motion to complete your goals finally. You’ve already made the verbal agreement with yourself. To keep your promises to yourself, you’ve signed your name on the dotted line and are committed to this journey.
I am running a marathon at my own pace and aim at the finish line.
Before you compare and contrast your journey with your peers, it is essential to recognize what sacrifices you’re willing to make, to dig deep and to figure out what your goals indeed are. Other people’s success can be discouraging and make you question your path. If you focus on the task at hand, the finish line can become apparent and more tangible. You are a winner for even trying, getting started, and executing.
I have the power to overcome hardships.
Let’s face it. You’ll endure more lows than highs during this time. The small wins and victories also come with epic fails and humps to get over. It would help if you reminded yourself that you would prevail. You will overcome this. You will win.
Thanks for reading! Hopefully these tips help. If you know any other self positive affirmation, comment them below. We love to hear from you guys.