Tips For Supporting Introverts When You’re An Extrovert

Extroverts—we come in layers and all shades of intensity. If we qualify ourselves as one (because let’s be real, you can only self-identify yourself as one or not), we feel more comfortable putting our emotions and personality up at the front than our counterparts, the introverts. We like to share parts of our lives and who we are with others (for the most part) and we feel at home asking other people questions and getting into the mix. 

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And for those who don’t relate to this, that can be a lot. For introverts, it can be engaging and impressive to watch as we bound forward, in a way that seems fearless, into social situations, work events, or other vulnerable people-facing adventures. On the flip side, it can also be overwhelming to think of being that way when every fiber of who you are would fight that kind of attention or platform.

When it comes down to it, being an extrovert can feel unnatural to some. And just like holding ourselves back from certain opportunities or situations feels like a waste to extroverts, introverts may just not see it that way. This can be hard when we develop relationships, and friendships or have family members that don’t sync up with our outlook. You want to seek the world out alongside the people you love most, but how you do it can be a disagreement when finding the happy balance between these two personality types is not met.

Here are a few things to remember that could help you bridge any gaps as you face life alongside introverted personalities. 

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Use your extroverted personality to relate to introverts

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Sometimes as extroverts, since we open ourselves up to people easily, people often more easily return that gesture. This gives us an advantage in really getting to understand people better. This type of trait can build empathy, and when we are close to introverts, using that skill is crucial when making efforts to make the introverts you love feel more relaxed. Approach their perspective with empathy and it will allow you to more easily assess an introvert’s feelings.

Learn from introverts

Introverts have a lot to offer. Since they aren’t jumping into the thick of things naturally or since they are preferring to spend more time inwardly, they are usually very keen observers. Ask them questions. You will likely learn things from them that you never considered, and it will open up your mind to other ideas, perceptions, and possibilities. 

It’s OK to encourage, but don’t push

People are who they are. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert or an extrovert. One is not better than the other. Both offer wonderful things to the world. But remember there is a time and a place to encourage people to get out of their bubble, challenge and push themselves, but always be patient and respectful of their boundaries. Find that line and be mindful—that is what loving another person is, and it’s important to be respectful of it.

Take advantage of the balance

Similar to how it is OK to encourage introverts to go out of their comfort zone occasionally, let introverts remind you it’s also OK to reel it in. This balance will allow you to slow down. Enjoy it, it will help you grow as a person.

Regardless of where you fall on the spectrum of being outgoing or being more reserved, our differences are always a chance to learn, find more patience for others, learn from others and also share with others what we can teach. It is important to keep these things in mind as we learn to keep our relationships with those who we love and who are cut from a different cloth, healthy.

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Let’s Stay in Tonight: Activities to Do for a Night In

Listen—we’ve all been there. There are times when we don’t want to leave our house, but still want something fun to do for the night. Well, luckily for you there are plenty of nighttime activities for you to do in the comfort of your home. Whether you’re with your pals, your significant other, or if you’re riding solo, here is the perfect itinerary for your night in. 

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GOING SOLO? NO PROBLEM.

Let’s be honest with ourselves, sometimes the thought of being around anyone can be exhausting, and the only company you want to have is yourself—it’s a natural thing. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a fun night all to yourself.

TRY JOURNALING OR READING 

With #BookTok booming online, why not join in with all the bibliophiles and pick up a book. Whether you’re into a juicy romance or are interested in an immersive fantasy world, you’re sure to find a book that’ll have you up all night saying, “just one more page.”

If reading isn’t your pace, try picking up a journal and get to know yourself more intimately with some shadow work. With tons of great prompts all over the internet, you’ll surely be able to tune into your inner self and become one of your closest friends.

LET’S PLAY DRESS-UP!

Want a more playful activity? Why not play dress-up. There’s always something truly entertaining about conjuring up some cute looks from your closet; all without the pressure of going out. This activity is a great way to experiment with your look outside of your typical aesthetic, as well as a fun and creative way to utilize your closet in ways you may not have thought to do.

Plus, it’s a great opportunity to live out your modeling dreams and throw a little fashion show for yourself—not to mention all of the Instagram post opportunities.

THE ONE WHERE THEY STAY IN

Are you and your friends tired of going out every night to do your typical nighttime shenanigans? Well, why not spice it up with these at-home activities. Just like Ross, Rachel, Monica, Joey, Chandler, and Pheobe your Friend(s) group can also make the best of having a night in.

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HOW ABOUT A POWERPOINT NIGHT?

This one for the friend groups with an obscene sense of humor and a ton of creativity. First emerging from TikTok, this trend will have your whole squad rolling on the floor. 

The basic premise is for each person to make—as you may have guessed—a PowerPoint presentation to have the rest of the group dying of laughter. The best part about it though is that you can pick whatever topic you want, the more creative the better. TikTok user @lola.akw and her friends had a lot of fun with their PowerPoint night, and you can too.

CAN’T GO WRONG WITH A GAME NIGHT!

Hosting a game night is a tried-and-true classic that guarantees you and your friends will have a good time. Whether you’re into the classics like poker, or you like the more comedic route of Cards Against Humanity, there are so many variations on game night that your friend group will surely find something that suits you. 

If you’re into something more intense and interactive games such as the stress-filled spoons, or the paranoia-inducing game Mafia might be some fun ones to throw into the mix. Both of these games are fairly uncommon, and yet are very entertaining, not to mention the fact that they only require a deck of cards and maybe some spoons.

A NIGHT IN, PARTY FOR TWO?

Of course, we can’t make a list of things to do for a night in without coming up with some ideas for all of the couples out there. If you and your partner are tired of watching movies and ordering food for a night in, give these two activities a try.

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COOK DINNER FROM SCRATCH!

Cooking dinner for anyone is sure to be a romantic gesture, but why not spice it up? There is something so romantic about cooking but trying your hand at making a home-cooked meal from scratch can add some flare to this—at times—basic activity.

You and your significant other can look up recipes for your favorite foods—whether it be a dessert or a main course meal—and work together to make the dish of your dreams. Not only is it a perfectly intimate way of connecting with your other half, but you also get a delicious reward at the end.

DANCE PARTYYYYY!!

The last, but certainly not least, indoor activity on this list is a dance party. If you just don’t want to go out to the club, then why not bring the club to you?

Having a dance party with your significant other is one of the best ways to spend the night. By letting loose at home, you two can connect and get some exercise; plus, you, as the DJ, can play all of your favorite hits.

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While all of these activities are categorized into groups, they can be used for almost any occasion with anyone.

What do you do for a night in? Leave a comment below. 

What I Wish I’d Known Before Working with Kids

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With me leaving a job, this year I decided my next job will be in a field that I am passionate about. I enjoy helping kids and adults who can’t help themselves at the moment. It was between a private nurse, nanny, or teacher. The school that I am working at now kind of just fell in my lap. I needed a job and as a kid, I did want to become a teacher, so it felt right to try it out.

A school reached out to me and was impressed by my resume. I was informed of an opening working as a daycare teacher that takes care of kids who are 3 weeks to 2 years old until they head over to Preschool. Perfect. Right?

Not entirely. Whilst working with kids can be a massively rewarding job, it certainly has its hardships which I wasn’t quite prepared for. I received training during the starting of my new role, but what this training could not prepare me for was the often stressful, often hilarious, crazy things kids get up to. Here are some of the things I wish I’d known before taking the plunge.

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You’re not going to get paid a lot.

When I started as an assistant daycare teacher, I quickly learned that typically daycare teachers usually make $10 hourly. The salary only bumped up a little when you become the main classroom teacher or the director. That’s not a joke: As of Mar 20, 2022, the average annual pay for a Daycare Teacher in Miami is $19,611 year. Just in case you need a simple salary calculator, that works out to be approximately $9.43 an hour. This is the equivalent of $377/week or $1,634/month. It seems like the salaries are getting a little higher as people recognize how important early education is, but you have to love this job because you’re not going to be doing it for the money.

The cuteness wears off fast

Tiny little people running around is cute for the first few hours, maybe even days. However, this wears off pretty quickly. It takes just one child bursting out into tears or misbehaving to reduce all cuteness of the collective group of children. For me, the nail in the coffin had to be one girl deciding to deliberately (yes deliberately) soil herself in an attempt to garner attention.

It’s so very tiring

10 hours a day, 5 days a week takes its toll, let alone doing this on your feet practically all day, ensuring the safety of 12+ kids whilst keeping them entertained. Early nights are a must.

You seem to be hungry ALL the time

There’s something about running around after misbehaving kids all day that works up an appetite. Bring plenty of food to work because there’s nothing more painful than watching all the kids eating the overly excessive amounts of food their parents have packed them in the morning, lunch, AND afternoon whilst you’re sitting there starving.

Most of them have no concept of personal space

Sometimes funny, sometimes annoying; kids just don’t seem to care about anyone’s personal space, including yours. Whether it’s sticking their noses right up against yours to talk to you or braiding your hair and decorating it with daises, having known you for merely a day (yes, I happened to be the unlucky victim, and yes, these kids don’t understand that you just don’t put your hands in a black woman hair, especially with dirty hands).

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Everything you do is being watched.

Not to sound too creepy, but kids are like sponges at this age. They’re watching everything you do and, as a teacher, you’re modeling how to be a human being. That means I need to be super aware of what I wear, what I say, and how I act around the kids. It doesn’t mean I need to be cheerful and happy-go-lucky all the time. Most of what we’re teaching kids at that age is how to handle their emotions in appropriate ways, so I think it’s OK to demonstrate how to deal with negative emotions too. If I stub my toe and it really hurts, it’s perfectly acceptable to explain to a 3-year-old how I’m feeling and why — like, “I feel frustrated, because my toe hurts.”

The lotion will become your best friend because you’re going to wash your hands a million times a day.

It’s simply a fact that preschool classrooms are germy, and — going back to the modeling thing — you have to be an example of good hygiene. That being said, daycare teachers get sick like every other week because of the kids. Every daycare has cleaning procedures regarding toy-washing and classroom clean-up, and while your kids are going to get runny noses, teaching them how to wipe their noses becomes part of your curriculum.

Teamwork is key to surviving the day.

There will be days when you don’t feel energetic or entertaining, and that’s where your team comes in. Every daycare has support staff, so teachers aren’t stranded by themselves when things get chaotic in the classroom. If I’m having an off-day, I can always ask one of those people to take charge of circle time while I do something more mundane, like washing tables, or to watch my classroom while I take a five-minute break. 

Kids are hilarious

It’s safe to say that by the end of it all, you’ll have many stories to share, and most of them are funny. Anyone who works or has worked with kids will know that kids do weird and wonderful things, and regardless of the struggles of working with them, you can rest assured you’ll be entertained daily.

You have to be OK with making a complete fool of yourself.

This is a big part of the job: You can’t take yourself too seriously. Sometimes you’re standing up singing a ridiculous song or pretending to be a monkey in the jungle, and you have to be able to get out of your self-conscious adult brain for a minute and play. Sometimes that’s hard for people, but those are the times you connect with the kids, and it’s absurdly fun to play like a kid again.

You’ll miss (some of) them

Despite many of them giving you a hard time for weeks, there are some kids that you become accustomed to brightening up your day somewhat, and I would be lying if I said it isn’t the slightest bit sad to see them go. Kids get attached easily, and it’s just as sad to see them struggle to say goodbye to you.

It’s very rewarding

As tiring and stressful as working with kids can be, the rewarding nature of the work ultimately outweighs all the negatives. There are not many better feelings than knowing you’ve sent a child home smiling. I don’t think I fully appreciated or expected the feeling of fulfillment gained from the knowledge that you have positively impacted upon a child’s life in some way, however small or brief, and this makes all the hard work worthwhile.